FOMO, or the fear of missing out, is a common struggle for many Christians today. With social media and constant connection to what others are doing, it’s easy to feel like we’re not measuring up or missing important experiences. However, the Bible offers wisdom and perspective on how followers of Jesus can avoid falling into the trap of FOMO.
Recognize that earthly experiences don’t provide lasting fulfillment
A core reason we experience FOMO is because we mistakenly think that certain experiences, relationships, or possessions will provide deep fulfillment and satisfaction. However, the Bible tells us that only God can truly satisfy our souls. King Solomon, renown for experiencing every pleasure imaginable, concluded that worldly pursuits are “meaningless, a chasing after the wind” (Ecclesiastes 2:11). Jesus said, “Whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again” (John 4:14). When our identity and purpose is rooted in Christ, we don’t need to look to earthly things for meaning and contentment.
Cultivate contentment in all circumstances
Rather than constantly comparing our lives to others, Scripture calls us to be content and grateful for what we have been given. “But godliness with contentment is great gain, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content” (1 Timothy 6:6-8). “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Intentionally practicing gratitude and embracing our current season redirects our focus from what we lack to the blessings right in front of us.
Trust God’s timing and path for your life
When we feel restless or insecure about what we’re missing out on, it’s easy to take matters into our own hands instead of waiting on God’s timing. However, Scripture reminds us that God’s plans will unfold better than anything we could orchestrate on our own. “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11). Rather than impatiently comparing our journey to others, we can rest knowing that God promises to complete the good work He began in us (Philippians 1:6).
Invest in heavenly rewards rather than temporary things
Eternal perspective is key to overcoming FOMO. Jesus told his disciples to “store up for yourselves treasures in heaven” rather than earthly wealth and possessions (Matthew 6:20). Paul says to “set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth” (Colossians 3:2). When our eyes are fixed on the greater riches of our future hope in Christ, the fear of missing out on lesser experiences diminishes. We can live generously and freely without grasping for more.
Find identity and belonging in Christian community
God created us for relationship and does not intend for us to walk through life alone. We are instructed not to forsake gathering together with fellow believers (Hebrews 10:25). Within Christian community, we are reminded we are loved, known and valued. “So then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God” (Ephesians 2:19). Surrounding ourselves with brothers and sisters in Christ provides grounded perspective when we are tempted to compare or feel dissatisfied.
Focus on serving others rather than self
Self-focus and entitlement feed discontentment, while self-giving cultivates gratitude. Jesus calls us to look out for the interests of others: “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:3-4). As we turn our gaze outward and invest in meeting needs around us, we experience the joy and purpose that comes from reflecting Christ to the world.
Rest in God’s sovereignty when you feel left out
There will inevitably be times when we feel excluded or passed over. When these moments come, we can cling to the truth that God is still in control. Joseph was sold into slavery by his brothers, but later was able to assure them: “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good” (Genesis 50:20). When we feel forgotten by human hands, we can remember that God is orchestrating redemptive purposes beyond what we can see. He promises to work all things together for our good (Romans 8:28).
Remember that our worth is rooted in being made in God’s image
At the core of FOMO lies insecurity about our own value and belonging. But Scripture tells us that our primary identity is found in being made in the very image of God (Genesis 1:27). We don’t need to earn worth through our worldly pursuits or achievements. “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are” (1 John 3:1). Because God’s love for us is unconditional, we can rest confident that nothing can separate us from it (Romans 8:38-39).
Embrace simplicity and moderation in your lifestyle
Living in a consumer culture often fuels discontentment by promoting excess and indulgence. But Scripture calls followers of Jesus to embrace moderation, wisdom and simplicity when it comes to material possessions and money. “But godliness with contentment is great gain… But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content” (1 Timothy 6:6,8). “Do not love the world or the things in the world” (1 John 2:15). Intentionally living simply and generously can safeguard our hearts from earthly envy.
Spend time daily in God’s Word and prayer
There is simply no substitute for regular time connecting intimately with God. Daily Scripture reading reorients our perspective around kingdom values and reminds us of God’s faithful presence and promises. “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you” (Matthew 6:33). Prayer invites God into our fears, needs and desires and realigns them to His will. As we abide in Christ, we gain His heart of contentment that surpasses circumstance (John 15:4-5).
In summary, FOMO is a common struggle faced by many Christians today. With the lies of culture constantly bombarding our minds, it can be easy to buy into the illusion that we are missing out on something better. However, Scripture offers liberating truths and practical guidance to help followers of Jesus avoid falling into discontentment and comparison. As we set our minds on Christ and invest in storing up eternal treasure, we can live with joyful gratitude for the gifts God has given us in each season.